Dear Extroverts,

If you’re an extrovert then more than likely your mate will be the opposite, an introvert (like myself). In order to have a rock solid relationship with us there are some very important things you should know.

• Don’t expect them to share everything about who they are. They will when they are comfortable enough to do so.

• Don’t get offended when they want to be alone. Introverts need to get away in order to recharge, especially if they’ve spent the whole day around a lot of people. It’s nothing personal. You will actually realize your relationship improving, as this is understood.
• They will be a GREAT listener.
• Don’t expect them to lead or take over your conversations at the beginning of the relationship. Give ’em time to warm up to you.
• They might be better at communicating their feelings through writing, music, or other artistic forms.
• They might not have something to talk about at certain times. Don’t feel the need to always fill the silence. If you don’t make the moment awkward, it won’t be.

• They might not be a fan of talking on the phone. (Personally, I HATE talking on the phone. I would rather write, text, or just talk face-to-face.)

• No, not all introverts are shy.
• Never embarrass them in public.
• If there’s anything you need to sit down and talk about, let them know ahead of time what you want to discuss. This gives them time to process everything, beforehand.
• Do NOT try to turn them into an extrovert. That will just cause frustration for both of you.
• They won’t have a lot of close friends. Don’t try to “fix” that. It works for them.
• If there’s a problem in the relationship, discuss it privately.
• In new situations they won’t say much. They have to observe first.
• Since they are constantly in their head processing everything, don’t try to demand instant answers. It might cause them to shut down.
• It’s very important that you allow them to be who they are. In return, they will do the same for you. They may even cross over every now and then to the extroverted side to prove how much they love and appreciate you.

Inspired by: Introvert, Dear

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