Are you one of those girls who happen to be friends with all of your ex? Perhaps you started out as friends and then you took things to the next level only to realize you guys were definitely not meant to be in a relationship together, for whatever reason. You really liked how things were when you were just friends, less
- complications
- misunderstandings
- drama
- heartache, etc…
So you break up and now you want to pretend all the memory of the horrible relationship phase never happened. You trick yourself into thinking your heart is not as involved as it was before. Some time has passed and he’s already back into the dating scene or now has a girlfriend. He talks to you about this girl like you’re one of his homeboys and you feel some type of way about it. (It’s called jealousy, boo.)
So now you’re “best friends” with your ex and still happen to be on this insane emotional roller-coaster that you were on while you were dating him. Do you know why? Because you tell yourself you’re moving on, only to keep falling back due to the dead weight you’re still holding on to. You’re trying to take what was meant for the past into the future. Take a look back on all your past relationships. They all had lessons implanted in them. Learn those lessons and move on.
Imagine, you’re trying to go through a narrow door, right? Keep in mind, everything behind this door are things you are currently praying for. But it’s hard for you to walk through the door. Why? In your hands are some monstrous baggage. These bags are filled to the max and has a little lock that only you have the key to. See, these bags are top-of-the-line bags. Absolutely pleasing to the eye, but the lock is there because you want no one to see the ugliness inside. Things like
- shame, low self-esteem, pride, lust, rape, hate, unforgiveness, doubt, jealousy, self-hate, body issues, fornication, debt, daddy issues, addictions, etc…
I encourage you to rid yourself of all this junk. It may not be all at once, but start with one thing. Cut the tie you have with people God’s been trying to tell you to let go of. Chrisnatha said, “The worst thing is to have someone who cannot handle who you are becoming.” The life you imagine for yourself is waiting for you. Take the necessary steps that will take you there.
“Forget about what’s happened; don’t keep going over old history.
Be alert, be present. I’m about to do something brand-new.
… Don’t you see it?” Isaiah 43:18-19
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