Self-Check: What am I allowing to influence my self-talk?
Two Things that may be inspiring your negative self-talk:
1. Social Media—> playing the comparison game.
I’m not as pretty as ….
I’m not as skinny as …
My life is not as exciting as …
I wish I could be as popular as …
How come everyone is getting married, except me?
It’s really sad that so many girls are to the point of depression based what they see on social media. This is a HUGE problem ladies. We have to learn to be content…to love who you were created to be, whether that mean accepting our skin color, our own hair type, our body type, etc…
This may seem drastic but, if this means unfollowing some people, DO IT. If you need to go as far as completely disconnecting from all social media platforms, DO IT. Take time to develop an appreciation for yourself. Look in the mirror…learn who that girl is. What is she passionate about? What kind of person does she hope to become? What are her life goals? Her relationship goals?
- The People Closest to You
You may be like Joseph in the Bible , you have BIG DREAMS. You try to share them with the people closest to you, but they quickly kill your zeal because your dreams seem impossible. They are never truly happy for you. The more you try to convince them of the plans God has for you or the visions He’s given you, the more they look at you like the unicorn in the room. They can’t seem to wrap their brain around the things God’s preparing for your life.
Don’t expect everyone to jump for joy after hearing about the direction God will be taking you. Perhaps, some of these leaders, friends, boyfriends, and family members may be jealous just like Joseph’s brothers were. As you live life you will realize that some things are only meant to be shared with a select few. Stop trying to make your purpose/calling okay with these people. God didn’t ask for their permission to choose you, so why have you decided to take on the task?
CAUTION. Everyone who says they are FOR you, don’t always mean it. Some only mean it when you’re beneath them or on their level. They may feel threatened when finding out that you are being “promoted”.
Decision Time. Are these people lifelong friends, partners, mentors, ect…? Or are they only seasonal?
—>Cause you don’t wanna drag these seasonal folks into another season of your life that was meant for the lifelong folks.
Ex: Some of you are WAY too loyal. I know you may be thinking…”Isn’t loyalty a good attribute?” Yes. Yes it is BUT only to the right people. God didn’t tell us to be loyal to everybody. We have to use our common sense and let the Holy Spirit lead us in areas that are beyond our comprehension. There are women out there so loyal to a boyfriend that she allows the man to disrespect her in every way possible…self-esteem shattered… but brags about how she’s loyal to him…how she will eventually change him. Girl…!
*My obedience to God is more important that my loyalty to man.
I pray that these women will come to the realization that they are worth so much more than what they’re settling for.
Perhaps you’ve outgrown your circle of influence. Instead of dragging all the baggage into your new season of life, let them go. You will experience less stress…more peace. Surround yourself with people who encourage you, challenge you, and inspire you.
It’s time for the new you to rise up. She’s been suffocating in that tiny box, you’ve held her hostage in, for far too long. Speak positive words over yourself. Embrace who you are in the very season you’re in. LET’S GO LADIES!!!
Motivational Scriptures
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm 139:14
“I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.” Jeremiah 29:11
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.” Proverbs 3:5-6
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Although this was written last year. It is still relevant. This really touched me. I seem to be faithful to everyone because I never want anyone to hurt, but those people don’t feel the same way in return and this comes from family members where it hurts the worse. Psalm 139:14 is going to be committed to my memory. Thanks for a wonderful blog post. God Bless!
Awww…amen, sis. I am so touched by your comment. So glad it helped.
You’re welcome. 😉